Yesterday a friend asked me if I dream.
And boy, do I dream.
Sadly, like most of us, I don't remember them most of the time.
But when I do, boy do I dream.
I moved mountains, started and ended relations, written books, stayed awake all night.
Just because of some dream.
Sometimes I wake up with an insurmountable feeling of indescribable loss.
Like today, for example.
I felt like that not because the dream was sad, but because it was happy.
I found there some source of lasting happiness, redemption and bliss.
And now it's gone, in the seas of memories of things that never happened I so carefully treasure.
So much is lost in the mornings.
But why am I dreaming this way about that particular chick I banged once?
What does it mean to me?
Maybe I just had a dream and put a face on it.
And then I started to think.
And disconnected memories started to pour in.
A long time ago I met someone, someone I knew even more time ago.
It was a girl.
I hope that says a lot.
We talked and talked, about nothing of importance.
I sensed there was actively something we were not talking about.
She had been absent for a time.
I felt similarly during that time in my life.
I wouldn't say "broken" necessarily. Just gone.
And I mean, she was there. A bit too much there, actually. Some of her smile was gone.
I had never known someone with that kind of energy, when she was like fifteen.
We didn't ever hook up or anything, but we had a kind of complicity.
The kind you hide behind energy and enthusiasm.
A precious kind of engaging bubbling sexualized frailty. And many other words.
Evident in both spirit and body itself.
I guess she sensed I could see through it and wanted to double down.
And she did the same with my playful indifference.
I remember her running to my arms every single time she saw me in highschool.
I would lift her to the skies.
And hug her very close.
Passing my hand firmly through the soft skin of the back of her neck.
As if it was the most delicate thing in the world.
Between half a dozen of my incredulous friends and talking to me a centimeter away from my face.
Who had always known me by my serious, not very affectionate, not romantically involved persona.
And I would laugh, and play the game we liked to play.
In which she pretended to want me and I pretended I did not.
And at the same time, that lie masked the reverse one. And so on and so forth.
Fucking funny, isn't it.
How highschool meant nothing and was a simulacrum and a bunch of ridiculous nonsense.
And at the same time contained the whole world itself.
And felt more real than what reality feels like now.
So, no. This wasn't just "a chick I banged once".
In fact, properly deconstructed, I don't think I have any of those.
The case with this one is that, by some miraculous chance, she didn't become an obsession back then.
Just the phantom of one. The idea of one.
Maybe because during that time, I already was getting everything of girls I wanted to.
So time passed, meeting less and less, and when doing so, both were with other people.
Almost parading a funny assemble of girlfriends and boyfriends to each other.
Both more important that the stupid game we liked to play.
And also just another part of it.
We had a story.
Which is difficult to convey, because I have to insist on it's importance while at the same time.
Dismiss it as a cosmic children's game.
To say it another way:
We have kissed during very important moments in our lives with other people.
Which is weird, because we have done so very rarely.
Two different times we made out the same night I started a long relation with someone else.
And one time it ended one.
The magical think is I didn't even remember this stuff before right now. To me, it didn't "count".
As if we had a weird platonic thing going on that had nothing to do with the rest of the world.
No matter how hard I would try to explain.
An inside joke understood only by us two and a nonexistent God.
It wasn't even sexual. But at the same time, it was in it's purest form.
We would play lots of games.
Reverse roles.
Fall in love for a night.
And actually forget about it the next one.
I remember, I used to go with her family during Christmas and play cards with them.
The whole extended family was there.
No explanation, no context.
I don't even remember how it started. We just did it. It lasted a well four or five years.
During which I assumed I was some sort of constant unofficial boyfriend to her family.
That kind of masked the erratic and bewildering life she actually had.
But I don't think she actually invited me for any reason in particular.
Also I didn't go for any particular reason. Really. I just though it was funny and somehow made sense.
I wouldn't even want to play cards with my own family.
I didn't even like them very much.
And the game was very not funny.
But the farce seemed so natural. So weightless.
Somehow we both understood how to play costumes.
And how we are actually fleeting dust very hard trying to be someone.
So I accompanied her to the bus station.
There was time to kill, so we decided to get a coffee.
She talked to me about how now she was studying again, and how she wanted to study physics.
To solve the universe and build a time machine.
It reminded so much of me when I was eighteen.
Well, without the dark connotations about regrets and guilt.
At some point, for some reason, the conversations really took off.
Maybe it's because I am quite a different person with caffeine than without.
And she said.
"I don't want to leave so early, but if I stay I would need a place to stay."
Which I hope says a lot.
After going back to my place for a couple of hours.
We went to a girl friend of his to eat something and watch TV.
We got lost in the forest going there, because the direction was wrong.
And you would think, "I understand a direction being wrong, but how do you get into a forest."
And I, to this day, think the same.
But it felt so natural back then.
Then we went to my place again, watched a Harry Potter movie, and slept.
I still have some photo of her standing on my floor mattress.
Pierced by morning light from the giant crystal windows that covered the whole room.
And then she left.
I honestly didn't think much of the whole thing.
It was something I had dreamed about for years. And for some reason I assumed it was a one-off.
Which turned out to be a luck.
Fast forward a couple of weeks.
I was back in my hometown for some reason. And had not much to do left.
For some other reason, it occurred to me to send her a message, without much pretensions.
Something like, "I'm around, btw."
And to my surprise, she immediately answered. Something this kind of girl usually doesn't do.
My theory is that the two weeks in which I said nothing and then just appeared.
Were in fact the perfect timing: enough to be forgetful but not enough to forget.
There was a pool and we messed around a bit there.
We decided I was going to stay the night.
She was living in her parents house, again. Which was suspicious for someone so independent.
So we just talked a bit, then smoked some weed (I decided to make an exception).
And played an old Harry Potter game in a playstation one, in a daze, well into the night.
Her room was very telling. As most girl rooms are.
Not much stuff. White stuff. Medications scattered in an small table.
Some interesting magical things here and there. A book in a corner. A handmade drawing.
The old tube TV we were playing on.
I know this room.
I've been in this room before.
The "I have been living in a psych ward and then I am back home" room.
Which I guess says a lot about how bizarre my sentimental life was at that time.
We talked some more.
We talked about how we desired each other, all this time.
How in the end, the game played us.
But very fast it came clear to me this wasn't the end of it. It would just change a little.
Now she wanted to play "normal boyfriend" with me.
In the sense that kids play house sometimes.
And I was willing. But another games that intrigued me were more like:
"Let's be broken together but pretend we're not until we are, for some reason, not."
"Or else live for a while in a world of fantasy we can sometimes create for us."
"In which you want to reach the stars and I am still a happy man."
"Or just play whatever and fuck to try for a second not to think of drugs."
"Let's have a game with the twist that actually in the end it isn't a game."
Oh boy, do I dream.
But crazy with crazy doesn't usually work. And dreamers wake up when their fantasies clash.
I was not someone to play normal couple with.
She was talking with some other boyfriend on the phone.
And either thought I was dumb enough to not notice, or just didn't care.
The first one is more offensive.
For a moment I though: "who cares."
Like, what's a relation anyway. We can do whatever we want.
So I decided to do the same and also started talking with another girl.
But I was just trying to get her jealous so she would pay attention to me.
It kind of worked at first. Until she started to ignore me, and went to the bathroom again.
She did it, from that point on, about once every fifteen minutes.
My best guess was that she went to take nudes to sent to whoever she was talking to on the phone.
And I have the intuition I'm not wrong.
Why did she though I would be fine with that, I can only guess.
I was thinking about what to do. What so say. To drop the nuke and ask her what was going on.
But I guess I didn't want to seem controlling, so I didn't.
Which you may find absurd. But probably you haven't ever been gaslighted into thinking you are.
Also I didn't ask any of the other questions I should.
What happened to her.
What did she saw.
What did she do.
Where did she was.
What did she wanted.
But I wasn't getting what I wanted, so I just didn't want to play anymore.
Not like that.
I didn't even want to fuck (that's a lie) or her to pay attention to me.
The original plan seduced me already, a night of slow perfect cinematic soft decadence.
Together.
To me, the game was over. We had won. Now we could just love each other, however flawed.
And the, like, fourth time she went to the bathroom to take hot pictures of herself.
I decided I had enough, and made the smart sensible thing.
I left and waited for about three hours the next bus to take me home while in the freezing cold.
All while muttering to myself with anger.
What a day and hour I had chosen to have pride.
I remember, before I left she told me:
"Do you really want to leave?" And her words are still in my mind. She looked at me in the eyes.
She wasn't asking me to stay. It was the most honest, piercing question of all time.
I thought "No." and I said "Yes."
It's not possible to me to know if to her, this story meant anything at all.
If she remembers it at all.
And if she does, if she remembers as a nonsensical thing that happened with another crazy guy.
Probably.
But maybe I was one of the last strings she had from his past life.
The light in her bedroom was still on. And remained on for hours.
I know because I wandering around the park under her window in the middle of the night.
I guess only to hope she would see me and beg me to come back.
It didn't happen, obviously.
It never does.
The problem about us, eternal childs.
Is that the ultimate goal of our infinite games is not to win. But to play forever.
By leaving, I had left the game.
Didn't talk much after that. We have met a handful of times since, all by chance.
I hope that she feels about that adventure that, it's very funny how we are the worst couple of all time.
And that adds to our strange distant occasional intense friendship.
But a part of me knows it would have been better if it never happened.
I guess sometimes we just like to destroy beautiful things.
Corrupt them with our oppressive humanness.
It's in our nature, somewhere.
It's been like, five years since that.
So why, why did I dream about her today.
About meeting and embracing each other.
With a deep understanding and comprehension of our deep flaws.
And living together a single moment that was so beautiful I woke up "with the heart in my fist".
And I couldn't shake off the dazing sensation of that dream all day.
Hell, I am writing about it right now. I should be sleeping, or preparing my bag.
I have a flight in the morning.
But this whole thing is burning inside.
A single moment pierced the whole experience like no other.
That smile.
It's embarrassing how I dream much more about transcendence linked to casual gestures.
Than I dream about sex.
One time, I told it to a friend and he said "That's fucked up."
When we were in the pool (in real life) in certain moment I made a bad insinuating joke.
And she looked at me like she looked at me before. Like she used to be.
How you can only describe with contradictions.
Innocent sensuality. Premeditated surprise. Carefree gravity.
I saw a glimpse of her.
Still there, still alive, still accessible.
That's the moment I dreamed about today. That moment of unspeakable connection.
I mean, we were half-naked and making out and all that; but that's besides the point.
Physical intimacy always have powerful emotional connotations.
Love has aesthetics.
I always fall through memories, through stories.
I fall with potential, even with lost potential.
And what are we, if not the remnants of tragedy.
If not the buildup for a good story about our rise and fall.
The friend that asked me about if I dream, also said something about how he has always wanted to:
"Save the whole world."
And wouldn't be nice if we could save even one person.
And for a second, that idea seduced me.
And for a second, I was willing to sacrifice my whole life to that task.
I was in the dream, and I was in real life.
I was then, and I am now.
Beautiful, isn't it.
There's just a problem. Apart from the obvious disfunctionality of the whole thing.
I lied.
Not about everything. Everything I said did happen. I just left out a little detail.
She didn't just ask me to stay the night.
She also asked me if I had some coke.
And I said I didn't, but we could get something between the two if she knew someone around.
That time we went to his friends house to eat and watch TV?
Her friends boyfriend was the seller.
We watched Harry Potter because I was so fucking high I couldn't sleep.
She needed it to.
The next day, when all went to shit, I had nothing. Because I don't usually do that stuff.
She wasn't working, so I can only guess where she got the drugs from.
Maybe slightly related to the whole "photos in the bathroom" stuff.
I don't think she was in a psych ward.
I think she was in rehab.
The exact moment I which I started suspecting it, I don't know. I don't want to know.
Was it the day after we fucked?
Was it when I saw her room?
Was it when we were lost in the forest?
Was it the moment I first saw her?
Did I knew and did what I needed to do to get what I wanted?
Perpetuating the problem I were myself pose as the savior of was part of the fantasy?
Maybe she was just the result of a lifetime of people that took what they wanted and left afterwards.
Didn't I just do the same, after fulfilling my own fantasy?
And then promptly forgot about it, until I had this dream?
Like I said:
I don't want to know.
Maybe it was none of those things.
But one thing is clear:
I should just have known better.
Like I always do.
One day, doing a well enough job to recreate who I used to be, I was playing basketball.
And saw someone familiar at the other court behind the curtains playing volleyball.
Same smile, a lot of energy.
Laughing. Does anybody remember laughter? I do. I dream about it.
And waited a couple of weeks to casually glimpse better so see if it was actually her.
And one day a ball went off the court and I was alone, and she came to pick it up.
And I said her name.
She turned to me, very surprised.
"What?"
I looked at her better and kind of smiled, now it all made sense.
"Sorry. I have mistaken you for someone else."
My best guess is that it was her sister. She must got that a lot.
From the people that met her when she was young.
She's probably around. Somewhere. Maybe not that far.
Probably doing better than me, and would she ever read this she would probably think: "wait what?".
And this will all come full circle and end as it started: Just a dream I had.
Maybe I just had a dream and put a face on it.
And that's all there is to it.
And what I'm doing now is recreating what happened based on what, in a way, makes sense.
What I "remember" being just another story I make up.
Forever blurring the lines between fantasy and reality, past and present.
Shielded from truth by the forgetful sands.
Of sleep and time.